Divorce is an extremely difficult time for most people, and children in particular can be emotionally devastated. During this delicate time, it is especially important for you to provide them with the support that they need. Below, we’ve outlined a few key guidelines to help you and your loved ones cope with the challenges that divorce and family disputes often bring to the table. Remember, for more in-depth guidance, do not hesitate to reach out to us at the R&S Law Group, LLP.
Emphasize That the Divorce Is Not Their Fault
Depending on their ages, it is not uncommon for children to feel as if they are somehow to blame for the deterioration of their parent’s relationship. While this is a natural response, you need to emphasize to your children that they are not responsible for your divorce. In cases where your children are of an appropriate age, you may want to take some time to help them understand the why’s behind your divorce. In general however, the most important thing is to ensure that your children are not carrying any undue or unnecessary guilt.
Remind Them That Both Parents Still Love Them
This might seem obvious, but it is critical that you remind your children that they are still loved by both parents. Change will be inevitable, which is always stressful. But that change does not mean that the love between parent and child has to change too. Reaffirm your love via words, actions, and ways which help reassert a sense of stability and a loving environment.
Help Them Realize That A Divorce Is Not The “End”
A child who is experiencing the deterioration and end of his/her parent’s relationship will often feel like this event marks the end of the world. It is important for you to help them see these changes as opportunities rather than a failure or catastrophe. Make no mistake, divorce is hard. But life goes on, and while you might understand this, children often need help looking past the immediate crisis. You can help them through this difficult process by emphasizing the fact that a divorce is an opportunity for growth and positive change.
If you are facing a divorce in California, or if you have any questions relating to family law, know that you can count on us at R&S Law Group, LLP. Call us today to schedule a free initial consultation.