Many people dread the visitation exchanges and other points of dropping off and picking up the kids at the ex’s. Not everyone can maintain a cool head and things can quickly escalate to a conflict if one person lets his or her temper get the best of them.
For today’s post, we’re offering a few tips that can help keep your child exchanges smooth, civil, and efficient. For more info or for tailored legal advice, remember that we at R & S Law Group, LLP are here to help.
Think About the Location of the Exchange
The location of the exchange is more important than people may initially suspect. It’s best to try and stick to a neutral location, one where both parties feel at ease. We recommend public places such as restaurants, stores, parks, and other similar locations. If things are especially tense or there have been previous incidents of domestic violence, it might be best to meet somewhere like a police station.
Involve a Neutral Third Party If Appropriate
It can be wise for you to bring along a trusted friend or relative for support. Think about who might best fit this role, as someone such as a current lover might be a poor choice if you’re trying to de-escalate and keep things peaceful. Consider someone based on their ability to keep things calm, observe impartially, and help keep friction to a minimum.
Focus on the Goal and Task at Hand
Remember that the child exchange is exactly just that, an interaction for you two to hand over or drop off your child to the other parent. It is not an opportunity for you to make a point, discuss any unrelated topics, or do or say anything that could lead to a conflict. Keep your goal in mind and limit your interactions to only those that are directly related to that goal.
Stay Organized and Be On Time
Everyone has a hectic schedule, and making someone wait or being disorganized is one way for things to get contentious very fast. Stay on top of your schedule, make sure you bring all relevant things required to make the exchange an effective one, and work with your child to ensure he/she has everything they need before the exchange.
Talk to a Family Law Attorney
We hope these tips help your child exchanges remain calm, effective, and to the point. With that said, remember that we at R & S Law Group, LLP are here to help you with any divorce or custody matters in CA. We offer free initial consultations, and you can schedule yours by calling us at (949) 825-5245 at your earliest convenience.